I love self-help books, and I usually get a few good take-always, but every once in a while, I discover a gem. Today I am going to be reviewing a few Goal-driven books that have been game changers for me.
I am a chronic starter and this book completely resonated with me. He talks about how perfectionism sabotages our goals. Jon gives us in sights on things that that prevent us from becoming successful. He has filled this book with so many relatable stories and strategies on how to manage our goals.
I purchased this audible and really enjoyed how Jon is so entertaining when he is reading his book. I highly recommend buying this as an audible book because he gives you a few bonus tips.
So here is a quick summary of his book and how it may relate to teacher authors.
One lie that we tell ourselves is that everything must be perfect in order to be successful. This is why most people fail at reaching their New Year’s resolution or stop the diet they begin or stop marketing their products on social media. In the beginning of the goal we are full of motivation beginning, but as soon as we mess up or miss one aspect of that goal, then we give up. Finished is better than perfect.
We always think that the goal should be bigger. He walks you through cutting your goals in half to make them more manageable. If you can’t cut your goal in half, then double your timeline. I want to make 10 products in one month might be too much of a goal. You might want to cut that to 5 products to make it more manageable.
Another chapter is a BIG mistake in the teacher author community. YOU CAN DO IT ALL. Let’s get realistic, it is too much. I recommend you listen to episode 7 with Angie Kratzer. She talks about spinning plates. Start with one thing, once that becomes manageable, start another. All the while maintaining the first.
The Next lie
If it is fun, it doesn’t count. Are you reward motivated or fear motivated? Pick which one motivates you and add it to all of your goals. I am a little bit of both. I do reward myself for accomplishing my goals. But, I am also one that has a fear of getting behind. I find that fear gives me anxiety, so I try to work more with the reward.
He also talks about distractions of perfectionism. This is the activity that you work on instead of finishing your goal. I am guilty of this. I HATE to do the dishes and laundry, but when I am dreading on finishing a product…I revert to these quote, un quote brain breaks.
Another distraction is noble obstacles. This gives you a reason for not working toward a finish. I need to review 50 million articles until I can start the next amazing product. Is this you? This is just an excuse. FOCUS on what is important and start that product!
We make secret rules to keep us from being successful. These falsehoods are what we tell ourselves that make our goals impossible. You don’t have to have a diploma in business to market your products. Stop thinking you have to be an expert to become successful. Maybe you need a VA to help you, or you can just start with one.
Perfectionism hates data. Looking at how far you’ve progressed is more important. If you don’t like the results of the data, you have three things to change: TIME (give yourself double the time), GOAL (cut it in half), or ACTIONS (ya got lazy? Then, do more). Use your data to celebrate your imperfect progress!
Biggest thing that I took away from this books is…. You are not perfect: you will never be; get over it.
There’s so many other helpful tips in this book. I highly recommend that you read or listen to it.
The next book that I recommend this year is The One Thing by Gary Keller.
He first starts off the book with the six lies.
- Everything matters equally. He goes on to tell you about your to-do list should become a success list. You should focus on your should do, not your could do. Do the important things (maybe the less fun things to get the job done.
- Multitasking. I am guilty of this. Trying to do too many things at one time does not allow you to focus on the ONE task that needs to get done. Set aside the one thing that needs to get done first. Finish it before moving on to another ONE thing.
- A Disciplined life. Did you know that it takes 66 days to form a new habit. If you go to the 1 thing.com. He has a great 66 day worksheet to track your habit.
- Will power is always on call. You work 60% better in the beginning of a task and continue to fall during the task. Take a short break and get back up to that 60% will power again. Always starting with the ONE thing first.
- A balanced life. It is important to have a good work-life balance. I treat my teacher author business as a full time job. When my husband comes home, it is time to spend time with him. It has not always been this way. I was in the classroom and also created resources. Some things just had to be sacrificed.
- Last lie, Big is bad. If you have small actions, you will have a small outcome. If you have bigger actions, you will have a bigger outcome. Focus on your bigger outcome to get the most out of your time.
He then talks about the Focusing question:
What’s the ONE THING I can do such that by doing it everything else will be easier or unnecessary? Not just in your business, but in your relationships, your finances, your spiritual life, your physical health, etc.
He furthers the ONE thing to Goal setting to the now. What is your someday goal. Is it to have your teacher resources or teacher business exceed your teacher salary?
Whatever your goal is, you need to know why it is important to you. What will accomplishing that goal do for your life?
What will happen if you do not accomplish this goal?
What is your 5-year goal that will help reach your someday goal? What is your 1-year goal to meet your 5-year goal? What is your monthly goal to get to your 1-year goal? What is your weekly goal to get to your monthly goal? What is your daily goal to get to your weekly goal? What should you be doing right now to meet your weekly goal?
Now his next tip has really helped me stay focused. So if you are multi-tasking, listen up!
Block your time for your ONE thing.
Block your time for your time off
Block time to plan
Protect your time block.
Sometimes I get asked, “how do you schedule your time as a full time teacher author. Well here is my schedule
I wake up at 7:00 and allow my self to drink a cup of coffee and have a little free time to do what ever I want to start the day. If that means scrolling through Facebook or instagram, then that is what I get to do. I have even been known to shop on amazon during this time.
8-12: MY ONE Thing! I do get up at 10:00 for a very brief break. I may put a load of laundry in or unload the dishes. I only give myself 10-15 minutes, just enough time to recharge.
12-1: Lunch and maybe a little bit of tidy around the house.
2-3 Self-Care This is when I go on a walk, ride my bike, play golf, or do yoga. Something to clear my mind.
I am technically off at 4, but I usually take an additional hour to clean the house, etc. before my husband gets home around 5.
The evening is mine and I spend time with my husband and two fur babies.
I also give myself the weekends off. Although, I am known to sneak a little bit on my ONE thing during the weekend.
Alright, back to the book…
The next thing he writes about is battling the distractions. Our shiny objects. Here are his tips…
Build a bunker. Go to an office and shut the door and don’t come out.
You may want to leave your phone in the other room. You may want to shut down all your browsers. If someone wants to talk to you during that protected time, tell them that you have an appointment.
Do what ever it takes to focus on the ONE Thing!
The last thing that he writes about is accountability.
Did you know that individuals with written goals are 39.5% more likely to succeed?
But, individuals with written goals and weekly accountability are 76.7% more likely to succeed!
Get an accountability partner, find an accountability pod, or find a mastermind. I currently belong to 2 masterminds and set weekly goals. There is no better way to hold yourself accountable.
I encourage you to visit the one thing dot com and view some of the free videos and handouts that he provides.
These are two books that I will listen to at least 2-3 times a year. They are great and will help keep me striving to finish my ONE thing!
I have created a goal planning worksheet to help you set your goals in the first quarter. Just go to my website heathervanderboom.com, and it is waiting for you inside my freebie vault.
I hope that all of you have a wonderful 2021!